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Creating A Home Worth Imitating

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We live in an era where all kind of negative semiotics embargo have characterise most of our homes across the globe. Statistics have shown in recent years that the rate of divorce is growing in a dramatic rate while the rate of single-hood in marriage is also a thing of concern. While this is on, the rate of adultery has risen to 70% in African homes, but has become a norm in the western world. In the mist of all these anomalies, young people still craved to get married without proper preparation in all ramifications.

One critical area that is lacking among young people, is their inability to ask questions and to trust God to have role models who they can be accountable to. Because of this, a repeat of what is happening could be replicated if young people don't turn a new leave.

A friend of mine was in a Sunday service recently and a family was on stage to testify God's goodness in their lives. They have been married for 35 years and are still waxing strong. Three things were their bases for marriage success.

1. The husband has never raise his hand to beat the wife ever since they got married.
2. Both spouses never reported each other to the church leadership for what so ever reason.
3. Even when there were problems to settle, not even the children have the privilege of hearing either issues nor the resolution there after.

At this point, the congregation of over 1500 gave them arousing applause, as this gesture was rare in the era of mistrust, divorce and anarchy to mention but a few.

On my part, I found the life of this family a template to build mine. My friend if your home will be worth imitating, it must first be built on a solid rock which is the creator. It is glaring that without him, the only thing one do is nothing.

It is better late than be late, it is better to wait than waste in an unfulfilled marital bless. It is much better to remain single than become single while in your matrimonial home. Let him that has ears hear what the spirit is saying.

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7 Tips To Overcome Your Negative Attitude

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One of the basic facts of human experience is that usually you get what your mental attitude indicates. That is, if you believe you can, you can. If you believe you cannot, you cannot. Think negatively, and you will get a negative result, because by your thoughts you create a negative atmosphere which is hospitable to negative reactions. On the contrary, think positively and you create positive atmosphere which positive results a natural.

A close-up of one of the most successful men in America, who started with almost less than nothing, reveals that one of his most outstanding characteristics is that he never even so much as entertains the thought of failure in any undertaking.

How does one go about shifting from a negative to a positive thought pattern?

1. For twenty-four hours, deliberately speak hopefully about your job, your children's grades, your health and your future. Speak hopefully about the prospects for world peace and the business outlook and go out of your way to talk optimistically about everything. This is difficult, but you must restrain yourself from talking pessimistically by an act of will.

2. After speaking hopefully for twenty-four hours, continue the practice for one week. Then you can be permitted to be "realistic" for a day or two. You will discover that what you meant by "realistic" a week ago, was actually pessimistic, but what you now mean by "realistic" is something entirely different: is is the dawning of optimism. When most people say they are being "realistic" they are simply being negative.

3. To make your mind healthy, feed it good, nourishing, wholesome thoughts. Being now shift your mind to positive thinking.Start at the beginning of the New Testament(your holy book) and underscore every sentence that has to do with faith and memorize passage that appealed to you.

4. Commit the underscored passage to memory, one each day, until you can recite the entire list. This will take time, but remember, you have used time to become a negative thicker and it will take time to unlearn your negative thought patterns.

5. Make a list of your friends and determine who is the most positive thinker among them and deliberately cultivate his or her society. Do not abandon your negative friends, but get closer to those with a positive point of view until you have absorbed their spirit: then go back among your negative friends and give them your newly acquired thought pattern.

6. Be careful to avoid argument, but whenever a negative attitude is expressed, oppose it with positive and optimistic opinion.

7. Pray a great deal and let you prayer take the form of thanksgiving, on the assumption that God is giving you great and wonderful things,.For if you think He is, He surely will.God cannot give you any greater blessing than you can believe in. He wants to give great things, but even He cannot make you take everything greater than you are equipped to receive.

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Self-Justifying: The Besetting Sin Of Our Age

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One weakness that is common to all mankind is self-justifying. Whatever we may do that seems wrong or unjust in other people's eyes, in our own we are always right. We can always adduce adequate reasons for whatever we may have done or said. Such reasons may not and often do not satisfy other people, especially those who may feel wronged or hurt by our acts or words; but they do satisfy us, and as far as we are concerned that is all that really matters. The whole process is what we mean here by the expression "Self-justifying". Through it we preserve our own feeling of "always being right" which is precious to our Self-esteem. It is all done so unconsciously that it often requires diligent self-observation to make us aware of the extent to which we do self-justify. In fact, it may be regarded as an automatic reaction.

It is all part of that mechanical and automatic reaction to the events of life which Esoteric Psychology terms sleep. Man is fast asleep within himself, snuggle assuming that he is a fully conscious being, aware of all that he is doing and initiating activity in everything he undertakes whereas he is merely a mechanism blindly reacting to every situation and event that confronts him. Of all the mechanisms which sustain him in that feeling of smug self-satisfaction with himself, the Chief one is self-justifying. Through its automatic use in his life, man goes on living, feeling quite certain within himself that whatever he does or says or think is right, however much other people may contradict him. But they too, self-justify and so it is an unending process in which we are all involved, everyone self-justifying, and seeing where others may be wrong, but never really seeing what may be wrong in what they may be saying or doing.

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Accepting The Reality Of Life

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Many have been asking questions about the realities of life and how certain situations have continued to be a mystery that cannot be explained. Sometimes it is quite difficult to understand why certain events are happening which cannot be comprehended. For instance, no one can tell whom he/she will eventually get married to. Another disturbing issue that has continued to generate worry, is how the future would treat us in relation to our aspirational goal in life.

Ironically, many people have concluded that life is a game of luck which only shine on those who are destined for greatness. For these obvious reasons, a cross section of the society believe that no matter what happens to them, they must either by "hook or by crook" make it in life. These kinds of people are not interested in the exercising patient to receive the blessings of God at the appointed time. If we have to be honest with ourselves today, how many persons can beat their chest and thank God for where he has position them? Obviously, very few can afford can do that nowadays.

Sincerely, no matter our passion to accomplish great results, our dreams would only come true at the divine appointed time. For the fact that you have been working and struggling so hard to make it in life for a long time and your situation has not changed for good, does not mean that your condition will remain that way. As long as you keep battling for the best, just know that your time to make remarkable progress would soon come to pass. If you accept the cold fact of reality that "every thing has it own time" then nothing will shake you, even when others laughing or mocking at your present situation.

What so ever situation you find yourself toady, always learn to appreciate where God has placed you, of course things may not be well with you but never give up doing the right thing. Due to lack of patience, so many people have ended up their lives in mystery while others have terminated their lives as a result of "get rich syndrome".

Remember that if your condition is terrible today, it will suddenly get better tomorrow. Never give up, but learn to accept the inevitable concept of life as doing otherwise is a gateway to perpetual sufferings and failure.

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Giving No Excuse For Fear Of Failure

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The true life story of this man is told to challenge you. He was born with no arms and no hands. As he grew older, he initially developed bitterness but later he changed this attitude, not only to accept his condition but to adapt. That was the only right choice to make. Of course, no human efforts, physically or scientifically, could have created arms and hands for him that will function normally. Rather, he, on his own created a new attitude to his handicap. He started asking himself what directions he could go and what possibilities are available for him to live on and fulfilled. He never allowed his condition of armlessness to confine him into a small existence. He first overcame the spirit of rejection. Then he refused to brood over what he could not change and rather contemplated on what he could do. What excuses he could have made created real opportunities in his life and endeavors. Realizing that without pain, there will be no gain, he developed his innate potentialities. He then began to do what he initially thought was painful.

However, his mother played a remarkable role in his life. It is called "tough love", and it worked. She knew J.F. Must learn to do what he should do himself. She knew that he could not continue to live dependent on others for life. One day, she dared to push him into the bath and locked the door behind, no longer to be assisted by and of his siblings. Poor J.F. felt cheated and unloved. Thank God for that wonderful day when he gave no excuse for not washing himself. He determined there and then to help himself. With pain, tears and all courage and determination he threw a feat - he washed himself independently, but after long and much struggle. Thereafter, he learnt other skills. He learnt how to wear his wrist watch on his ankle, trained his toes to hold the pen to write. He trained his shoulders to be a support to his toes to pick needed things from the shelf in the Super into his shopping basket. He learnt to dress up using his teeth, shoulders and toes to do what his hands could have done. He could draw his tea or coffee, fry egg for his breakfast etc. on his own. With the regular training he gave these other parts of his body, he became accustomed to doing things on his own, not depending on his siblings or parents. He gave himself no excuse.

We should learn that when you realize your condition and you begin to accept the challenge you are in to finding out ways to adapt to condition. You will overcome the evil of making excuses in life. The story of this man is very instructive to everyone. He later became a popular person and bagged many high University degrees. He became resourceful and so rich in a seemingly worthless situation. He is a challenge to everyone today, teaching us that there is ability in disability.

Many disabled young men/women have gone into different higher institutions of learning and graduated with excellent grades. Someone once told me about a lady who suffered polio from infancy and since then had been on wheelchair, but she never allowed that to deter her from making progress in life. She went ahead to study law and came out with second class upper division. Even presently, as you are still busy searching for one excuse or the other, a great many others like her are wheeling themselves in out of lecture halls, libraries and examination halls, getting ready to graduate and bless the world with their talents and knowledge. Why sit you idle? Arise, and get something done! You have no excuse!